Self-guided Afterlife Connections

Validations from Participant Journals

Participants experienced validations in which they learned something during the Guided Afterlife Connection that they did not know about.  The information was later proven to be true. Excerpts from journals with validations follow.

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I find myself being able to relax and get into my special place where information and guides come to me.

This time the husband of a church friend came through and told me to contact his wife and tell her to go to page 112 of the book she was reading and she would find a passage there that would let her know that it was him. He said she tends to read more than one book at a time so to make sure she knew that it was the one with red on the cover. I didn’t know his first name. He also told me his first name was Harold and she would be able to confirm that.

Also another friend who is a pastor had one of his spirit guides appear to me. Her name was Ariel and she told me that the pastor needed to start weeding out his life. This is what she showed me and I asked for clarification. She said that there is a lot of unnecessary stress and struggle in his life and all he needed to do is learn to walk away from what no longer served him in his life whether it be a person, habit, or just taking on too many things at once.

IN A LATER E-MAIL TO CRAIG

I wanted to follow up on these messages. I checked in with the two people at church to see if these messages meant anything to them. Our pastor said I was spot on when I gave him this message. He had been struggling with being pulled in too many directions and not knowing how to handle it. He said that it was a confirmation to him that he needed to cut some stress and certain people out of his life ( in a good way of course) that had been taking way too much of her time.

The other person's husband has come through to me several times before with some strange messages or at least what I thought were strange messages. She told me that whenever I give her a message from her deceased husband that it always comes to pass and she knows exactly what it means. I asked her if page 112 in the book she was reading meant anything and she said there was a passage that was guidance from her husband. She was reading three books at the time and said indeed that one of the books had a mostly red cover and that was where she looked. She said that yes, his name is Harold. I was thrilled that he continues to come to me to give me messages to share with her. These were both amazing validations for me!

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Then, I saw a young girl/teenager. She had familiar features. The name Brenda came to me and I realized it's a friend of mine's daughter. She died in a roll over crash where she was pinned and asphyxiated. The kids with her were allegedly responsible for her being abandoned at the wreck. The feelings I got from her had nothing to do with that wreck or the people around her then. She hovered with me, morphing a bit so I saw her in different stages, ages. I saw her exploring. I heard her say, I love mom. I miss mom. I saw some food item, rolled. It looked like a lobster roll but with jalapeños. I was focused on it too much and it disappeared, I looked to the side and saw her as a little girl, rolling out dough, working on a red checked table cloth, working so hard. She was darling! Then, I realized, Oh, she misses doing this stuff with her mom. At least that's what I got from it.

IN A LATER E-MAIL TO THE CENTER, THE PARTICIPANT WROTE THIS:

Well, how Dee doo? I wrote Lauren [mother of the little girl in the afterlife connection] and told her the first part of it and how confused I was with the roll ups that had jalapeños in them. I kept thinking, what on earth. So, I wrote Lauren unsure of how much to tell her. I can never remember who is a believer and who isn't. Guess what? She writes back and says it makes sense to her. Yes, they made jalapeños roll ups. WHAT.... I've NEVER heard of such a thing. Look, if I ever thought I was making this stuff up, well, I completely believe now. Where the hell did jalapeño roll ups come from?

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This woman saw a picture being moved in her experience, and later found out about the picture

I first noticed I was in a park like setting - a beautiful fall scene with lots of reds. There was a park bench off to the left. Suddenly, a small boy, old enough to walk but not talk was in front of me looking up. He was wearing only a little green football jersey and a diaper. His jersey had the number 23 on it. It was green with white stripes. He had blond hair. He was shy, but wanting my attention. I noticed that while he looked at me, his little toes were pinching at the grass. He was holding someone's hand but I couldn't see the person.

Suddenly a little girl appeared, she was Asian. Perhaps three or four years old. She had a picture in her hand. It was a picture she had been coloring. It was amazing! The detail, while abstract in nature, the many colors she chose and how she used them was really, truly amazing! She was carrying it around like any child her age would do, it was getting bent and folded from the wear and tear of being carried around - and I was thinking "Oh no! That's amazing! It should be framed and perhaps presented to an art school for display!" She was so excited. She took me by the hand and led me to the park bench where she had been coloring and I could see all her art pencils scattered all around on the bench. She didn't talk with words. But I could feel her excitement and she was very comfortable with me.

Next, I saw an Aunt on my dad's side that I've always felt very close to even though we didn't really have a chance to know one another in life. I was named after her. However, she died when she was 18 years old - and I was only 3 at the time. She was not talking to me - but showing me scenes from her lifetime. I saw her at her wedding, and then I saw her sitting at a table, somewhat bored looking....and then I watched her make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich...and before she ate it she smashed it all down really flat. I have no idea if she liked her sandwiches that way...but hope to find out. In any case, the next thing I know I'm at my Grandmother's house (her mother) and I'm seeing this giant portrait of my aunt (that's really there!) and I see it being taken down, and being moved around...but then I became aware that this was difficult for someone, that they wanted to move the portrait but couldn't bring themselves to do it. I wasn't sure what that meant.

I was talking with my mother the next day and I told her about what I had seen. As it turns out, my sister's daughter was visiting....she and my sister live in my grandmother's old house and my niece and my sister had talked about moving my aunt's portrait because they had something else they wanted to hang but my sister just couldn't bring herself to do it. The house has pretty much remained the same since my Grandmother passed back in 2005. I haven't been to the house since my Grandmother passed. Anyway, my niece said that when her mother wasn't home, she took down the portrait of my aunt....and so the portrait has been removed and this picture from Italy is now in it's place. My niece felt horrible when my mother told her what I had seen, but my mother reassured her that it was not that my aunt was unhappy about the move of her picture, but that this was something that would be validated for me. I was very excited! I mean, how cool!

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The participant receives a validation outside of a connection

A woman receives a great validation from her son that he's always around. After the last session I sent back to you I asked my son Allen to turn a light on in bedroom hallway. This light has not worked since 2007. I told him if there were any way possible make that light work. This was in the morning before I left for work (at 6:00 a.m.) My husband had spent the evening at his parents in Pittsburgh. I returned home from work and stopping by my other son's house to see him and my granddaughter. I arrived home around 6. I opened my front door, wasn't even thinking about what I said when I left the house for work--The hall light was on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cried and cried some more. You really are here!!

The stranger part comes a few days later. I came home and noticed the hall light was out again. I kept flipping the switch, and nothing. A couple weeks went by and his wife and I talked. She said the picture of her and my son tipped over and fell. This kinda thing was happening for a day or two. I asked Allen to turn the hall light back on so I would know he was here with me and the next day the light was on again! I asked him to leave it on even if he should have to leave to go see his brother or his wife, or whatever it may be. That hall light is still on and has not flickered once. You understand now that light switch for the hall light has not worked in 7 years no matter what we did. Allen knew this.

~ Participant Journal Excerpt ~
The participant went through Stage 3 and stopped, but was
drawn back to the procedure when she received a validation

I tried this after I first lost my son. I got to the point of envisioning him on a beach playing with sand toys. His back was turned and I approached him, but then everything faded. Can't remember the level or password. I didn't try again until now.

But since then, I had a reading by Theresa Caputo in a sold-out show selected from the audience, and a medium in Lily Dale told me that Jimmy "enjoyed meeting me on the beach." She said his back was turned and he was playing with sand toys. That was a "holy crap" moment for me, so here at am!!!!

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The participant meets and learns the name of someone she doesn't know, and her grandmother validates who it was

[Before the session] I told my grandmother [still living on the Earth plane] about my first experience and she was very open and interested. The fact that my grandpa had said My Camille meant something to her. She asked me to try and meet her mother next time I did this.

I had another connection with my grandfather. It was pretty much the same steps as the last experience. Towards the beginning I sort of felt like I was on the edge of fully being there with him and not being there at all. He grabbed me and I had a sensation of movement, sort of further into his realm. And he said to me that the difference between where I just was and where I am now was just an illusion. He 'moved' me deeper in, but that it was just a representation for the mind, nothing more.

Grandma had asked me to try and meet her mother next time I did this. So once I was connected with my grandpa again I said that grandma wanted me to do this. Nothing happened except that I saw in my minds eye an old photograph of a woman. Then I heard Mabel, Mabel, Mabel. This went on about five times. I was thinking that maybe that was my grandma's mothers name. So I asked my grandpa who's Mabel. He suddenly had his arm around a teenage girl and he said that this was my grandma's sister who died when they were girls. Mabel was nice and the three of us talked for quite awhile. I imagined a tree and it appeared. We all sat and laid under it for awhile. They answered many of my questions.... Mostly pertaining to spiritual topics.

Once back I went and talked to my grandma. I said I was with grandpa and was going to try and meet her mother but then heard the name Mabel several times. As soon as I said that name my grandma said 'oh my sister, she died when she was 16'

It was a great experience!

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I did a session the other night, clearly saw a friend's son, his music and some other things. I heard him playing a song.  Later that day, I asked my friend about something her son had shown me and she confirmed that was something of significance. That made me smile.  She told me about his YouTube he recorded before his passing. When I watched the online songs her son left on YouTube, one of his songs was the same song I heard in my afterlife connection!

~ Participant Journal Excerpt ~

Then I walked through the glowing door and Brandon greeted me. He seemed eager to share what I had missed in his life. He led me to his small boat, took my hand and helped me climbed aboard. We went out on the lake, and he gave me a big smile. He stopped the boat in the middle of the lake. It was very quiet and peaceful. He then took out a fishing rod, put a worm on it and began fishing. The word "bluegill" came to mind, and I saw an image of a bluish-grey fish. He then showed me how to fish and had me try it. I told him I had done well fishing at 6th grade camp. After that, I saw Brandon cooking fish on a barbecue grill.

IN AN E-MAIL TO THE CENTER A DAY LATER, THE PARTICIPANT WROTE THIS:

After Session 6, I was thinking about the bluegill fish and Brandon grilling it. I know practically nothing about fishing, so I was wondering if bluegills even live in the lake near where he lived. I had also never heard of anyone eating bluegills and didn't know if they could be grilled. I had actually always thought the most common fish to catch and eat was trout, so I was surprised bluegill even came to mind. I decided to do some checking to see if any of the information could be verified. It turns out that the lake by Brandon's house does indeed have bluegill fish! I also read they are a very tasty fish, and they are usually pan-fried, but can also be grilled. This is all information I did not know before the session. This definitely provides proof that this information is not coming from me. How could I possibly create something I had no prior knowledge of?

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I saw an image of my Aunt Mary, who passed away about 7 years ago, followed by gold bow earrings and a tri-colored gold rope bracelet with three strands twisted together. I then saw a slot machine with triple 7s. I had a sense that she wanted me to share the jewelry and slot machine images with my mom. Next I saw Aunt Mary at my cousin's wedding (the last wedding she went to before she passed away). She was wearing the black dress covered with a glitter pattern that I let her borrow because she lost a lot of weight and didn't have anything that fit. She was smiling, and I got the feeling she was trying to communicate to me that she loved wearing my dress and appreciated me loaning it to her.

IN AN E-MAIL TO THE CENTER A DAY LATER, THE PARTICIPANT WROTE THIS:

I told my mom about the images related to Aunt Mary. She confirmed that Aunt Mary did have a pair of bow earrings that she wore around Christmastime. [This session was five days before Christmas.] She wasn't sure about the bracelet, but thought it sounded familiar. The slot machine I already knew about because my mom and her sisters liked to go to the casino together. My mom also remembered that Aunt Mary really loved wearing my dress to the wedding and said she felt like a celebrity in it.

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In Stage 5, which I did yesterday evening, you advised us to ask questions to which we did not know the answers and then to check them afterwards.

I did this. The first question that I asked was the whereabouts of something that I had moved to another place, several months ago. Because I thought that I may subconsciously know where it is, I also asked another question to which I had no idea of the answer. I asked which was the card on top of the pack in the closed box of my Angel cards.

After submitting my journal to you, I first went to look for the moved object, and I found it where Johnnie had said that it would be.

I then went to the box of 44 Angel cards, and found face down on the top of the pack, the card that he had told me. I could not have seen it when I put the pack away several days ago because I only looked at the card on the bottom of the pack which was face up.

Amazing proof !!!

~ Participant Journal Excerpt ~

Next, there was an image of a lake with a small boat. I wanted more validation that Brandon was actually communicating with me, so I asked him for a boat name. The name that came to mind was “Pearson.” I had never heard of that before and actually had doubts it was real.

After the procedure, when I looked up “Pearson,” I discovered -- much to my surprise -- that it is indeed a boat brand. They make many different types of boats, including yachts, sailboats and large fishing boats. I was amazed by this validation. There is absolutely no way this came from me. I had no prior knowledge of this name and its connection to boats.

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(Written in December 2012) I saw the inside of a church with stained glass windows. I thought maybe it was the church funeral service. I saw lots of white flowers and then spotted white bows on the ends of the wooden pews. I realized it wasn't a funeral service, but a wedding. I saw a couple getting married, holding a little baby boy. Larry was standing with them, smiling and glowing white again. When he passed away, he didn't have any children and wasn't married, so I figured this must be his niece or nephew's wedding.

IN AN E-MAIL TO THE CENTER TWO MONTHS LATER, THE PARTICIPANT WROTE THIS:

(Written in March 2013) I was able to confirm that the wedding Larry showed me in our first afterlife connection (Stage 3, December 14) actually happened last week (in February). Larry's niece got married. So once again I was shown something that later proved to be true. They got married last week. I did also find a baby registry online, so they are expecting their first child.

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In this excerpt a participant describes what happened at a medium reading she had after having several Self-guided Afterlife Connections sessions. The medium reading validated the Self-guided Afterlife Connections experiences. This account is what the participant wrote:

I recorded my reading so I will tell you exactly how it was said. These are pretty much the medium's words:

"He wants to come forward today to let you know his spirit is here. You know that, but you are looking for that extra validation, and so the experience today is just sorta like a . . ." I interrupted him to say, "I can feel him, but I can't talk to him." The medium said, "And that feeling is....the best way visually I can explain it is, you know in football games when they bust through paper. Yah, that's what you are doing right now, you're breaking through that experience. The message he wants to share with you is the acknowledgment of the journey you are on. Have you ever done any,.....what I am seeing is that you feel him, but, I am seeing you see him, it's through a technique and experience, have you ever done any, or heard of anything called induced after death communication?" I said, "I am doing it online right now." [the Self-guided Afterlife Connections] He said, "OK, so that's it, that's the connections, in those exercises. It's him, and its only going to increase."

Comment by Craig

The name the medium gave (induced after-death communication) for these Self-guided Afterlife Connections is the name of a technique I wrote a book about with a psychotherapist who uses the induced after-death communication technique to help people have afterlife connections in the psychotherapist's office. The Self-guided Afterlife Connections procedure uses elements of that procedure. Through the medium, her loved one was saying it was him coming to her during the Self-guided Afterlife Connections procedure.

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(Written at 3:02 a.m. on May 6) I told him that I had been looking at the pictures of the boys eating cherries (taken a few days before he died) the ones with cherry juice dripping down their chins. Such happy photos. He said he missed cherries. I asked him for validation and he said that tomorrow I would see something pink and know that it would be from him. I said 'something pink?' and he just nodded like I would understand. I then said I had to go, I could feel my concentration waning. I passed him back to my father. Kissed them both on the cheek, and told them that I loved them. I went back to the clouds and started counting down.

IN AN E-MAIL TO THE CENTER LATER THAT DAY, THE PARTICIPANT WROTE THIS:

(Written at 7:39 p.m. on May 6) Today the woman who works for me was uploading some images to my website and she started muttering that she was having problems with the 'pink', that it was supposed to be rose and that she downloaded the pink images and named them the wrong thing and got confused. So it was quite tricky to fix the pink. I was a bit startled but in my visualisations Mac had said it would be something pink and I would know it was him.

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(May 5, 2013) I asked How come I don't get images anymore, visual experiences? "Tricks, images," was what I got in reply. Ben repeated that quite a few times, until it suddenly dawned on me that if I was preoccupied with deciphering images I might miss the feelings, and for me, that's the important thing. I checked with Ben. "It's about the feelings right?" He interrupted my question with Yes. He kept repeating "Tricks, images." I kept telling him I've got it. But then I realised I hadn't got it, and asked him if that applied to the impressions I have of us doing things together as well. I got a wave of affirmation that was like a joyous little body shift, and tingling on my right leg. When those body shifts happen, I feel more deeply connected. "Come to me," I asked Ben. Immediately I got a sensation like tapping on the left side of my head, a wonderful validation. I asked Ben why I feel the senstions more strongly at some times than others, I got the thought that it was about how strongly he could come through at those times. Then the Steve Miller Band song Joker started up, and continued throughout my meditation, and the words and thoughts and feelings communicated to me that I was learning Ben's language of love. There was another body shift, and deeper feelings of love.

IN AN E-MAIL TO THE CENTER LATER THE NEXT DAY, THE PARTICIPANT WROTE THIS:

(May 6, 2013) I had a lovely validation yesterday from the day before's meditation, confirming for me that I am connecting with him in my meditations. I went into a shop and had strong tingles on my head, I told Ben "We're not going shopping I'm only getting one thing". He loved to shop. (He has his hand on my back as I write this). I kept getting strong tingles, and I kept telling him off. It wasn't until I was about to walk out, that I realised it was the song! They were playing The Joker by Steve Miller Band! There was even a guy whistling it loudly near me! That's the song Ben had given me in meditation the previous day. When I got home, I looked in my journal to find out which day I had that song, and got strong head tingles again each time I opened a particular page, I couldn't find it on that page though. When I did eventually find it, I realised the tingles were telling me I'd gone one page too far. It would have been easier if he'd given me tingles on the right page!

~ Participant Journal Excerpt ~

I have a sceptical mind so during another attempted connection I asked for a sign. I always associated butterflies with my mother, and the following day I found a butterfly in my bathroom. It's January here in France and too cold for butterflies. I always associated butterflies with my mother and to find one in winter at the time I asked for a sign is truly amazing and wonderful. I know now that was my mother!!